Breastfeeding was one of those things I thought I understood before becoming a mum, but in reality, it was so much more complicated, and more rewarding, than I imagined.
Both my babies breastfed fully, but it definitely took time, patience, and a lot of trial and error. Here’s a glimpse into what made breastfeeding work for me, and what I wish someone had told me before I started.
1. Bonding Through Breastfeeding: The Unexpected Moments That Matter
I always heard that breastfeeding would bring us closer, but I didn’t realise just how much those quiet feeds would become our little sanctuary. Especially in the middle of the night, when the house was silent and it was just me and my baby, everything else seemed to fade away. Holding my baby skin to skin and feeling their tiny hands grasp mine, those moments created a deep, almost indescribable connection. It became our special time, a calm in the whirlwind of new parenthood.
But honestly, night feeds could also feel incredibly lonely. As the only one who could feed, the repetitive cycle every two hours often left me feeling isolated and missing adult conversation or support. There were many nights I’d stare at the ceiling, wondering how I’d survive until morning.
Challenges To Expect: While breastfeeding can foster amazing bonding, the responsibility often falls on one parent alone during night feeds. It’s okay to acknowledge feelings of loneliness and exhaustion. Finding ways to share other caregiving tasks or getting help to rest is important.
2. How I Knew My Baby Was Getting Enough Breast Milk
I felt reassured knowing that my body was adapting to meet my baby’s needs. The idea of “liquid gold” felt true to me when I saw how my baby thrived growing, gaining weight, and staying healthy even during minor illnesses. I loved knowing that my milk changed in composition over time to match my baby’s developmental stages.
That said, it wasn’t always easy to trust my milk supply. Those early days were filled with worry about whether baby was getting enough or if I was producing enough milk. I obsessed over the number of wet nappies and the length of feeds. It took support from lactation consultants and my health visitor to help me relax and trust the process.
Challenges To Expect: Doubt about milk supply is incredibly common. Many mums worry if their baby is feeding well or gaining weight fast enough. Remember that feeding on demand and regular check-ins with health professionals can provide reassurance.
3. How Breastfeeding Made Life Simpler (and When It Didn’t)
One of the biggest surprises was how breastfeeding simplified certain parts of life. There were no bottles to sterilise or formula to prepare. Wherever we went, I always had a perfect meal ready for my baby at just the right temperature. This freedom was a huge relief during the overwhelming early months.
However, breastfeeding didn’t mean I was free from challenges. Planning trips required extra thought about whether there would be a comfortable place to feed or pump. I also struggled with expressing milk, which often felt awkward and time-consuming. While feeding in bed made night feeds more convenient, it was sometimes difficult to get comfortable or fall back asleep afterward.
Challenges To Expect: Breastfeeding simplifies feeding logistics but can create new planning challenges, especially around expressing milk and feeding in public. Many mums find it takes time to find their rhythm and learn what works best for them.
4. The Breastfeeding Challenges I Faced And What Helped Me
Breastfeeding wasn’t always the idyllic experience I imagined. Painful latches led to sore nipples, blocked ducts and milk blebs caused discomfort, and cluster feeding left me physically and emotionally drained. There were days I felt overwhelmed and questioned whether I could keep going.
Sometimes, the responsibility felt isolating. While my partner supported me with other baby care tasks, feeding was a challenge only I could meet. I learned the hard way that asking for help from a lactation consultant, friends, or family was not a weakness but essential to making breastfeeding work.
Challenges To Expect: Physical discomfort and emotional strain are real parts of breastfeeding for many. Don’t hesitate to seek professional support early and lean on your support network. You’re not alone in this.
5. Why Looking After Myself Helped My Milk Supply and Sanity
I quickly realised I couldn’t pour from an empty cup. Eating nourishing meals, drinking enough water, and sneaking in naps when I could made all the difference. Some days it felt impossible, but even small moments of self-care helped me stay grounded.
I learned that self-care wasn’t selfish; it was necessary. When I prioritised my own well-being, I felt stronger, more patient, and better able to care for my baby. Having a partner who encouraged me to take breaks and rest was a lifesaver.
Challenges To Expect: It’s easy to neglect yourself during those early months. Fatigue and stress can impact milk supply and mental health. Prioritise self-care and ask for help when you need it. Your wellbeing matters.
Our Final Thoughts
Breastfeeding wasn’t always easy, and there were moments I doubted myself. But looking back, I’m proud of how far I came and grateful for the unique connection it gave me with my babies. Every mum’s journey is different, with its own challenges and victories, and that’s what makes it so personal and special.
If you’re breastfeeding, struggling, or simply figuring things out, remember to be kind to yourself. There’s no one right way to feed your baby. Trust yourself, lean on your support, and know that your love and care matter more than anything else.
Frequently Asked Questions About Breastfeeding
Mild discomfort in the early days is common, but sharp or ongoing pain usually means a latch issue. Don’t tough it out, get support early from a midwife or lactation consultant.
